The Most Powerful Way Conquer Your New Year’s Resolutions

“January 1 signifies a new beginning. However, each day allows for a new beginning, and hence it is a reset.” – Dr. Roberta Anding

We, humans, are quite odd creatures.

Year in, year out, just like clockwork we get this urge to reinvent ourselves.

Some, consciously decide what they want to pay attention this year (priorities). While others even though they do not make a conscious decision what are their priorities for the year, it lies somewhere in the back of their head.

For some reason, we love the idea of a new beginning. A New Year is just like a checkpoint in a game, and it makes us think that things can be different now. They can, but they usually aren’t that much.

We love the idea of improvement, and this motivates us, but most people are not ready to change their habits, particularly bad habits, and that accounts for the high failure rate.

According to research (by Statistic Brain Research Institute), most common New Year Resolutions are:

  • Lose weight/healthier eating
  • Life/self-improvements
  • Better financial decision
  • Quit smoking
  • Do more exciting things
  • Spend more time with family/close friends
  • Work out more often
  • Learn something new on my own
  • Do more good deeds for others
  • Find the love of my life
  • Find a better job

 

However, the surprising fact is that just 8% of people achieve their New Years Resolutions by the end of the year.

The interesting part is that most of these resolutions tend to be identical from the previous year.

Only the last digit of the year changes.

Here are the five reasons why people do not follow on their New Year Resolutions:

1. Operating on a short-term mindset (wanting results as soon as possible)

2. Not having action plan

3. Focusing on too many things we want to change

4. Starting with a habit that is too big

5. Thinking of New Year Resolutions as things we do, not things we are

 

Okay, but how do we fix it? 

Now, that is the right question.

Below is a simple five-step plan that will help you conquer your New year resolutions:

1. A Year In Review

2. Mindset Shift: Whom do you want to be in a year?

3. A Theme For The Year

4. Keystone Goal

5. How to Follow Through

 

Sounds good? (or to be more accurate, looks good?)

Let’s take just one at the time (like you would do with your New Year Resolutions).

First, let’s reflect.

 

1. A Year In Review

 

The great philosopher, Alan Watts once said:

“…tomorrow and plans for tomorrow can have no significance at all unless you are in full contact with the reality of the present since it is in the present and only in the present that you live.”

To make sure you have the right priorities for the year ahead, first, you should see how did the previous year go, and reflect back on everything you have experienced, achieved and discovered so that you can create a perfect closure.

Here are the several points you should reflect upon.

General reflection about the year

If you had to describe these previous 12 months, in a sentence, what would that sentence be?

Significant events

Ask yourself, what one event, big or small, that happened is something that you will still talk about in 5 years?

Biggest accomplishment

What single achievement are you most proud of? Moreover, why?

Challenges you encountered

What were the challenges you have faced, both in personal, and professional life?

Learning lessons

What are the most important lessons you have learned in 2016? Not only that but how did you grow? How did it make you wiser?

People

Who were your go-to people that you could always rely on?

Most common mental state this year

What was it? Excitement? Curiosity? Enthusiasm? What triggered them? When were you euphoric?

Me on the 1st of January 2016 vs. me right now

How would you describe yourself now, compared to the beginning of last year?

Gratitude

What, or who, are you most grateful for?

 

Here you can find a detailed process. 

2. Mindset Shift: Whom do you want to be in a year? 

 

“Life is a journey, not a destination.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

If you have ever played a game, you know that to go to the next level; you have to do what’s in your power to make your character better.

Of course, you do not have to. You can proceed to the next level, but it will be more challenging, like playing on a hard mode.

Every year of our life offers the same opportunity.

The first step is to gain clarity on whom do you want to be.

This way every action you take, will not be something you do, but something you are.

Finish this sentence: 

By the end of this year, I am….

 

Now, let’s take care of how will you become that person.

3. Set A Theme For The Year

 

“The days are long, but the years are short.” – Gretchen Robin

Once you have an idea whom do you want to be in a year, you should define a theme for the year.

This will serve you as a guiding star.

Imagine if this year you continue doing everything you normally do, but your health becomes the primary focus, and you do everything in your power to bring it to an optimum level.

Next year, you add another theme, maybe learning a new language, like Spanish. However, you keep up with the habits you had established in a year before when health was your theme.

By doing this, in a couple of years, your health will be at an ideal level, and you will be able to speak fluently in another language.

Just imagine how many opportunities that will open once you are energetic, vibrant and confident with your body, plus you can communicate with over 300 million people with your newly acquired skill in Spanish.

If this can be done in 2-3 years, imagine what can be done in a span ten years by repeating this strategy, compared to trying too many new things every year, where progress will be minimal.

Gretchen Rubin, the author of The Happiness Project, is probably one of the best examples of how this can work.

One rainy afternoon, while riding a city bus, Gretchen Rubin asked herself, “What do I want from life, anyway?” She answered, “I want to be happy”—yet she spent no time thinking about her happiness.

In a flash, she decided to dedicate a year to a happiness project. The result? One of the most thoughtful and engaging works on happiness to have emerged from the recent explosion of interest in the subject.

Moreover, the best thing about is, that focusing on her happiness, it not only made her happy, but it affected every area of her life, both personal and professional. Plus, it made her the best-selling author.

I read this book back in 2014 and decided to do the same thing.

Here’s how it looked like for me:

  • 2014 – Theme: Health (reach optimal body state)
  • 2015 – Theme: Financial Independence (become fully financially independent without debts)
  • 2016 – Theme: Take Action Towards My Passion (start a project based on my passion and skills)
  • 2017 – Theme: Financial Freedom (continue to build my business and reach financial freedom)

Of course, each year I had more goals, to travel, learn new skills and meet new people.

However, whenever I was in doubt, I would go back to the theme and start from there.

Moreover, once you move on to the next year (theme), the habits you have established in the previous year will become part of who you are, and your task is just to be consistent with them, and add the new theme.

To define your theme, ask yourself following:

What should be the theme of 2017 that will bring me closer to the person I want to become? 

Give yourself a couple of minutes to reflect, and then write it down.

Next step is to specify this further, so have a clear path ahead of you.

4. What is your top focus for the year? 

 

“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.” – J.P. Morgan

Once you have clarity on the theme for the year ahead, next step is to develop a strategy that will help you achieve results.

You should start off by setting your keystone goal for the year that represents the core of your theme.

Moreover, then define two-three projects you need to focus on to accomplish this goal.

Here’s how you set your goal and projects.

Goal:

  • I have lost 10lbs (5kg) by 5th of May.

Projects: 

  • Test couple of diets until you find a perfect diet for yourself
  • Find a physical activity that suits you (gym, yoga, jogging, and so forth.)

Once you define your goal, and projects. Next step is to identify what high leverage activities you need to focus on; that will give you desired results. Because not all activities bring you the biggest return on the investment.

To make this easier, I suggest you ask yourself:

Which activity in each project would get me closer to my goal?

Once you define these things, this will become your strategy.

Just, remember that we often go blindly towards our goals, without stopping to evaluate whether or not they are still right for us, and whether or not we need to shift our strategy based on new circumstances.

This will make sure that you remain on the right path.

5. How To Follow Through 

 

“There’s a six-word formula for success: Think things through, then follow through.” – Eddie Rickenbacker

Here you will find certain principles you should have in mind; that will help you follow through your  New Year Resolutions.

Consistency

Making small continual improvement every day will be compounded over time, and give them desirable results. That is why you should focus on the day that’s ahead of you, and improve just 1%.

There will be days where your circumstances will not allow you to commit to your goals, but you can still do just a small step to ensure that you remain consistent.

 

Acknowledgement 

Even though we should strive not to depend on external validation, being acknowledged for your goals is crucial to sustaining your habits and gain motivation.

Let me give you my example.

My article “A 5-Step Plan That Landed Me A Promotion And 40% Raise…” got me 436 views in total.

I spent more than a week writing it. I felt so demotivated that it took me over two weeks to get back to writing.

On the other hand, my article: “13 Things You Should Give Up If You Want To Be Successful” had over 5 million views. Which gave me the biggest drive I have had in my life.

In between, there were more than ten articles that got me acknowledgement, and help me maintain motivation.

 

Social Pressure

Once you state your goals and projects publicly to your family and friends, in the moments when you want to quit or postpone something, this will keep you going, because you will not want to go back on your word. However, it should not be the only thing you rely on.

Support System

To set yourself for success you need to let people close to you know that you will need their support. It is like having a spotter in a gym. Someone who will make sure you are accountable for your goals.

Evaluate and adapt

As mentioned earlier, stopping every once in a while to see where do you will help you see whether or not you are on the right track.

Ideally, you would want to do this once a week, to see progress towards your goals.

 

Celebrate successes

We live in a dynamic environment, and because things move rapidly, we do not stop to see what have we are accomplished. That is why its important to celebrate your successes between milestones. Don’t wait for the goal to be finally completed;

Be grateful 

No matter the positive or the negative things you encounter on the way, it will shape you.

For the positive, you should be grateful for, for the negative you need to find a way to learn from them because they might be a blessing in disguise, which will you help you in the future goals.

 

Summary

 

 

No matter where you are right now with your New Year Resolutions. Whether or not you are still on track, or you feel like you failed, it does not matter.

As the quote in the beginning by Dr. Roberta says each day allows for a new beginning, and hence it is a reset.

So today you can decide to start over again, and now you have a strategy that will help you set yourself for success.

Focus on the present, and what you can do today to get closer to the person you want to become, and the goals you want to achieve.

 

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Author: Zdravko Cvijetic

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A Guideline To The Perfect Closure Of The Year

The great philosopher, Alan Watts once said:

“…tomorrow and plans for tomorrow can have no significance at all unless you are in full contact with the reality of the present since it is in the present and only in the present that you live.

The second half of the December, somehow naturally puts us in a reflective mood. Some questions appear that help us decipher how did the year go, and did we make the best out of it. However, we rarely utilize this reflective mode, we just kind of ease into the year, and then the momentum kicks in, and before you know, it feels like we hibernated the entire year.

That is why, this year, you should invest a couple of hours to reflect, and look back at everything you have experienced, achieved and discovered during the last 12 months so that you can have a perfect closure.

These couple of hours just might turn out to be the most valuable hours for the year 2017, because you will have a perfect direction on what needs to be improved.

First, there some things you should have in mind, to be fully prepared. 

Guidelines

Keep your schedule for these couple of hours clean. Finish everything for the day, including work, meetings, and try to detach from everything that happened that day.

Find a journal, a piece of paper or you can just use your phone, although I suggest that you turn off the phone and internet, so it does not disturb your focus.

You can stay at home, or go someplace quiet. In either way, have some food and drinks, get in your comfortable clothes, and relax.

Turn on some music, something that resonates with you, let it play in the background, and slowly start looking at the questions I have added below, think about them, and then write.

Write whatever comes to your mind.

Remember, this will help you build a perfect foundation for the next year.

General Reflection About The Year

Before we go into specifics, let’s talk about your feeling for the entire year.

What are your thoughts about this year? What’s your current mood when you look back?

Even if you skip something, you can come back later and add it.

The final question in this point:

If you had to describe these previous 12 months, in a sentence, what would that sentence be?

Important Events

First, list down everything that you can remember, both positive, and negative.

There’s no need to keep it structured, but keep on writing.

Your subconscious mind has already processed most of them, but sometimes you have to verbalize it or put it down on a piece of paper before the internalization happens.

Ask yourself, what one event, big or small, is something that you will still talk about in 5 years?

Now pause, and reflect on how you feel currently.

What Was Awesome This Year?

In case you set goals at some point, this is the time to see which ones did you accomplish. For now, don’t focus on the things you did not.

What successes, accomplishments, wins, great news and compliments happened this year?

It can be anything from relationships, family, career, finances, health, or personal growth. Try to imagine each one of these in detail.

How did you feel?

Notice how thinking about them brings out the smile on your face (if it did not, this will).

The last question for this point is:

What single achievement are you most proud of? Moreover, why?

What Challenges Did You Face This Year?

So, what wasn’t so great this year? What ideas, goals did you have that did not happen? Why?

What were the three or four biggest challenges you have faced, both in personal, and professional life?

Did something prevent you, or you used the “Excuse Card” too much?

This point is not as pleasant as the last one, but it is important to be aware of biggest challenges, and mistakes you have had this year.

Because it will help you get the big picture.

If you feel like skipping this, go ahead, but I strongly suggest you come back to it, and list down at least one specific thing.

Learning Lessons

At this point, not only that you should have realizations about things that went great, but also the ones that didn’t.

This is a gold mine. Which leads to a question:

What are the most important lessons you have learned in 2016? Not only that but how did you grow? How did it make you wiser?

Also, my personal favorite.

Which of your personal virtues, or qualities turned out to be the most helpful this year?

People

Pause, and think about people that played a significant role in this year. Don’t limit yourself to how much time you have spent with them, or how close they are.

Maybe you have had an amazing conversation with a stranger, which elevated your growth, or someone helped you when you needed it the most.

This point will let you understand, that even though today, social contact is reduced to a minimum, things like an authentic connection with a human being, have a power of making your entire year better.

As per usual, one question to close the point:

Who was your number one go-to person that you could always rely on?

Once you have this in mind, your relationships with that person and any other in your life will drastically improve. Because you will be grateful, and, it will reflect in your relationship with them.

Most Common Mental State This Year

I know, it is like a rollercoaster.

You go up, and down. Sometimes several times a month.

And you feel beaten down. This is natural and will happen throughout the life.

Sylvester Stallone, in his role of Rocky Balboa, had an amazing speech:

“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place, and I do not care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. However, it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It is about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That is how winning is done!”

That’s life I suppose.

However, try to focus on the mental states that were positive.

What was it? Excitement? Curiosity? Enthusiasm? What triggered them? When were you euphoric?

Try to think about little details, because this will help you anchor this moment, so whenever you are down, you can always get back to one of this life changing moments.

Me on 1st of January 2016 vs. Me Right Now

If you were to write a short biography about yourself right now, what would you say?

How would you describe yourself? What the best thing about you?

Think about that for a moment. 

How about one year ago? What are the main differences?

Sometimes it will be difficult to find something positive you think about yourself. Especially if you had a rough year.

However, I know that you can find at least one thing, that is better today.

It can be as simple as that you became a better friend or a listener. Alternatively, that you learned to dance salsa, play the ukulele, or learned three words of a new language.

Appreciate every single thing.

What are you grateful for?

Momentum kicks in, and it gets hard to keep track of the things that are important.

That is why every once in a while, you need to stop and remind yourself of everything that you are grateful for.

Since the year is going to end in a span of a couple of days, this is a perfect moment.

Just one question for this point:

What, or who, are you most grateful for?

Final Takeaway

At this point you will probably feel a bit overwhelmed, that is quite natural. Try to embrace the feeling.

This article was made so you discover what are the events that shaped you this year.

These things might be positive, which is great, I hope there’s more of those. Some will be negative, and you might feel a bit down, but just the fact that you are reading this, means that you are willing to expand your awareness, and do it better next year.

My final suggestion is that you do not go right away into setting New Year Resolutions, at least not yet.

First, for a couple of days think about these realizations so that they can be internalized.

Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone.” – Alan Watts (its only fitting that this article started with Alan, and ends with him)

Plus, in a couple of days, when it has settled, there will be an article about how to set new year resolutions, with your new insights from the past year.

Like a sequel to a good story.

It will first appear here  Zero To Skill.

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